Saturday, May 11, 2013

A Pep Talk on Change

Change is hard, especially when you've made the decision to trade something good for something you hope will be great. Not only can you make situations in your life better, but, it seems in my life anyway, that changing something also forces a person to mature and grow in ways they didn't anticipate. That kind of adds to the challenge of change; it means nothing feels the same. It's possible you'll feel a little lost, like you've been redefined. You might have to grieve what you gave up, and that might be a long process. If you're anything like me and one of my friends, you might get the sudden urge to dye your hair a drastically different color or pierce your ears. Weird how changing something about our appearances helps mark our resolve to write scary yet wonderful new chapters for ourselves. Sadly, there are people out there, watching, waiting for life to fall apart so they can somehow feel good about themselves for settling for what they've got instead of scraping up the courage to go for what they want.

So what's a girl to do? Avoid the scrutiny and the grieving process that change carries in it's back pocket? By no means! Let the joy critics get from your struggle be your motivation to not look back. Refuse "if only," "should have," and "I wish I had." In the throes of change, count only your blessings. I'm not saying you shouldn't acknowledge and learn from mistakes, but be slow to call a major change a mistake - it's going to take getting used to, and it could be a year before you know if you're headed in the right direction. At the end of it, may you find you've been changed from the inside out in ways you never expected, and may you find you're better for it.

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